Anderson Cooper & Grumpy Cat on Anderson Live
I just died.

So when heterosexuals ask, “Why did it take so long for him to come out?” I reply with a question of my own: “Why did it take you so long to make him feel safe enough to do so?”

I just don’t understand why people feel the need to base their entire lives around their sexuality. It doesn’t make any sense to me. Who you’re fucking shouldn’t define who you are. The LGBT community gets so wrapped up in this “gay culture”, that really shouldn’t even exist, in my opinion. People should just like who they like and go on with their lives. But as soon as anyone expresses the fact that they’re annoyed by this, they’re labelled as homophobic.
Also, I don’t think it’s fair to say that it’s a moral obligation to be out of the closet. That isn’t right.
So are you saying that we should all just assimilate into mainstream, heterosexual culture? We’re a community. We’re political, we still have things to fight for, and we always will. If you don’t want to be part of that, then fine. But you’re coming from a position of cis-male privilege, and I don’t think you realize how ignorant you sound right now. You’re basically discrediting an entire culture and community just because you’re annoyed by it. You’re telling us that we aren’t worthy of having our own culture, or that heterosexual, cis culture is somehow superior and that we should work towards assimilating into it.
I agree. I’m assuming this has something to do with Anderson Cooper, and I just want to say that I’m proud of him for coming out. This world needs more strong gay role models, of all types. It’s not about “flaunting” our sexuality, it’s about proving, to conservatives and young people alike, that being gay is just as acceptable as being straight. That even “normal” people like Anderson can be gay, and not be any worse for it. That gay people can lead successful lives, and not be destroyed by their “alternative” sexuality.
When we get to a place in the world where we no longer have to prove how “normal” we are, then maybe it won’t be so important to be so visible. Maybe we won’t have a “moral obligation” to show others like us that it’s okay to be gay, queer, or just not straight.
As for the “gay culture”: would you say that people of African descent should be stripped of their culture? Native American descent? Asian descent? Latin descent? the answer is probably no, and there you have it. If a group of people develops their own culture, chances are it is because there is something that society is not providing for them, and they create their own culture in search of solidarity. Society doesn’t give me solidarity, and I tend to find it in other queer-identified people. Without it, I would be extremely unhappy. Who are you to say that the culture I want, that I create, that I need, “shouldn’t even exist”?
“When people acknowledge that they are gay or lesbian, they are immediately identified by (and judged for) who they have sex with — and inherently how. The same is surprisingly untrue of heterosexuals, who often even produce proof of their sexual deeds in the form of children. ”

The fact is, I’m gay, always have been, always will be, and I couldn’t be any more happy, comfortable with myself, and proud.




Anderson Cooper: He doesn’t smile often, but when he does…. Oh lordy.